Loise Mausser: LOL!! this is funny. when my husband and i first bought our house and moved in to our own home, there was an agreement that he would stay out of the laundry room. i told him he had no business doing the laundry. mostly because he works very long hours, but also, he just doesn't do it right. i have a little OCD when it comes to how the laundry is washed among other household chores. lol! just let her do your laundry. maybe it isn't about enjoyment of the chore as much as it might be her contribution to the household. and then again, maybe she just enjoys going through your pockets......Show more
May Stands: LOL...this is kinda funny to me.Once after my wife and I got together and she was pregnant, I totally took over the laundry...I was doing the whole family's laundry. She got mad, because I wasn't spending enough time with her.Now, I assist her every week and it really makes me laugh when she yells, "You don't do anything around here that shows me y! ou appreciate me..." And I keep my mouth shut and keep folding...Really, very comical to me...lol...Show more
Damion Oleksa: We both do laundry depending on who is least busy at the time, it's much more preferable to cleaning the toilet or changing diapers as far as I'm concerned lol.
Patricia Bolduc: 10 weeks ago I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl.My husband had wanted kids since we started going out almost 7 yrs ago. We bought a house 3 1/2yrs ago and got married 1 1/2 yrs ago. When I got pregnant my husband was extatic. He was such a proud expectant father and would gloat about me and our baby. Everything in our realationship was better than ever for the 9 months I was pregnant, went out for dinners, intimacy was gr8, everything seemed fantastic. I went into labour and my husband was there for me every step of the way. He even made comments such as "it's so hard watching my wife going through so much pain and not being able to do anything about i! t."the day after giving birth he seemed a little distant, alth! ough he would feed our daughter he just didn't seem himself.The day after we came home from hospital he dropped a bombshell on me. He calmly said he couldn't be in this realationship anymore and that he wasn't happy! I was in shock.Since then I have come to find out that he has been with a female aquaintence of ours, sime1 we really had met a few months prior threw mutual friends. He denies any affair and says she is a shoulder to cry on as she too is going through a seperation! Every1 sees that it is more than that and cannot beleive it.On 1 occasion he verbally abused me for not leaving out daughter with him while I went out for a breather. He hasn't had any experience with our child and as much as I beg him to see our lil angel he always goes out or has something better to do.He moved out last week and cried as he did so.He does not spend any time with our daughter.I waited for him last night as he said he wanted to see her yet he called at 10:00 last night saying he wen! t for dinner with the boys.I asked him today if he would like to take care of our baby whilst I have a birthday to go to and he said he too is busy.He keeps saying that he loves her and she is his little princess yet I cant understand what is really going on. He says he doesn't love me anymore, which as much as I can't beleive as we were very much in love when the baby was born, I have to come to terms with that, yet I don't know why he doesn't spend any time with our daughter!What is going on??? Has he got the baby blues or something??? I wish this "friend" never came into the picture. I don't know what to do!...Show more
Rose Krouse: Your wife is not every woman. She is not from your culture and she is incomprehensible to you. If you stay with her she will devour you. That sounds ridiculous and dramatic now, but these words will come back to you afterwards if you stay and she does so. Your behaviour, as you yourself, know, is not normal to you, or you would not feel! like crap now. Getting you to behave in such a bizarre way is her way ! of getting you to compromise your very soul.She is only pretending it is normal to her. Escape and find a woman of your own culture or perish....Show more
Gerardo Greist: Oh, man, that sounds way too gushy. She needs to get a life, or some self-esteem.
Ambrose Mumma: Maybe she doesn't like the way you fold the clothes, Eddie. She must have a reason, ask her & you'll know for sure. I am very particular when I do the laundry. Things have to be folded "just so", they actually fit in the drawers better if folded a certain way. She just could feel the same way...:)
Elaina Adolfson: I live with my Boyfriend and his brother. I like to do my boyfriend's laundry as a way to show I care and feel affection for him. If he does his own, he usually does his brother's also- this irritates me to no end because I choose to wash his clothes so that he doesn't have to do it himself. Your wife is probably doing the same thing, using laundry as a small kindness to show he! r love.
Nona Lentini: My honey seems to like doing all the laundry... He then folds, sorts, and put away his, the baby's, and puts mine neatly on my side of the bed because he hasn't figured out my drawer sorting yet...It is amazing... I never thought I would be so lucky...And YES, he also got upset last week when I said I would do the laundry...WEIRD...***Seth: I actually prefer changing dirty diapers over laundry any day... Its over and done in a minute instead of hours of washing, drying, folding, & putting away... I even take out the diaper pail with no qualms....Show more
Guy Bonamico: You do laundry!! Okay thats it...beware..you have a new love stalker (points to self)...a man who does laundry.. HOLY CRAP!!! I can't stand it..come here...come here!! I NEED YOU!!!!
Violette Vanek: I appreciate all of the replies. All sensible advice and opinions. Thankyou. Being sworn at and treated like an option and not someone to be loved is bad enough. I don't f! eel like much of man around her.
Georgia Dees: Actually I do most! of the laundry. I find it to be a fairly simple task and I can watch tv or whatever while dealing with it. I'd rather do that than clean something any day.
Julieta Suleiman: that is not going to help you at all. You just go meet her and be your best charming self so that she can see that what she thought is not the truth. I would also suggest you take a good look at this relationship. IF if goes further do not make the mistake of thinking that the mother and family will not be in the picture and possibly making life difficult if not miserable for you. Despite what people think there are still many difficulties for mixed race couples so you need to be sure before you go any further with this relationship. Antagonizing the mother is not going to help you.
Roosevelt Pendill: i wish!
Dannie Briseno: did you say he started getting with her before or after you got pregnant? this is madness. he was putting on a front during your pregnancy obviously, he pr! obably expected something more or something better to come after you gave birth, or he was just waiting till after she was born to drop the bomb shell so that the stress wouldn't cause you to miscarry. your husband is a very sick man, as heartless as this is to say, worse things have happened. at least he gave you those happy 9 months, with or without sincerity, it would have been ten times worse for you and for your daughter if he would have confessed all this to you before you gave birth....Show more
Virgil Menefee: Why are you trying to make a human with someone you don't get along with???? You are trying to bring an innocent life into an already broken family? An innocent baby doesn't deserve to be brought into your unloving failing marriage!!! And if you did knock her up --- guess what even if you divorce you are still going to be stuck with her in your life, paying child support and possibly spousal support. Why is your"share" of the apartment so important? ! What matters more --- some money or your entire future happiness? Like! the rest of your life!!!You state she has NO respect for you. And a marriage without respect is pointless.Pack your stuff, rent a cheap studio apartment and call a lawyer, and file for divorce. Your lawyer will help you protect your assets. Don't know why you two married in the first place. Either you were desperate or she really misrepresented herself. The sooner you get out the better! No more mixing finances or sex!!! Just divorce!...Show more
Emery Blando: I do the laundry. Nobody else can do it. Period.Since Hot Mama stays home, she should be doing all of the laundry, and she should be outraged at your suggestion that you will do your own. I actually respect her for that.
Frederic Engellant: Go visit your husbands mother, bring her a nice gift, smile a lot and be pleasant. I wouldn't call her. Telling her how hateful she has been may end up putting your husband in the middle. Men put between their wives and mothers usually start to squirm and turn! into jellyfish. If you continue to be nice while his mother is being rude he'll stand up for his wife to protect her from his ugly mother. If he isn't man enough to stand up for you, limit your contact with her but still be nice. Don't complain about her to your husband because this will cause friction between you two. I'm sorry you have such an ugly MIL. Some people get off on making others feel bad. Good luck!
Tyrone Disanti: I wouldn't call her. If he loves you, he will not care what she thinks either and she's racist obviously. I would leave it alone...believe me, life is soooo much better without in- laws!!!! Consider yourself lucky!
Violette Vanek: My husband has never touched the washing machine. I wouldn't mind.
Marcia Cheathan: For the most part mothers wish to see their son healthy and happy. You'd be wise to give her a sense that you'll take good care of her baby.I would share your hurt feelings with your husband not with her. Avoid giving her! any satisfaction in this area. Praise her for the good things and don'! t try to teach her how to behave. She is too old for that.
Ollie Hamiel: Tonight a simple argument over my wife's refusal to help clean up and her arrogant attitude resulted in her getting over the top angry. She then kept saying f...you, idiot, stupid etc. Then locked herself in the spare bedroom.I stupidly dragged her back to bed at 1am and proceeded to have sex for the purpose of conceiving. I feel crap now.She tries to blow it off like it's normal for a couple to fight like this!! Even suggested that in her culture, the couple routinely sleep apart!I have no help with unpacking for the home :( I thought I was going to sleep alone and my thoughts turned to being separated and if she was cheating on me. But she came back to the bedroom with me...I heard her laughing to herself after she said those nasty words!!I hate the way she talks to me so insulting and then suits herself. It's not an environment for kids.She won't listen to me either.When I got married, I never! imagined I would be sworn at and have a partner who didn't seem to care about how I felt.I can't stay married to this anymore. I need a way out that will protect my share of the apartment....Show more
Ervin Laeger: well first im sure he loves his daughter it is just bad timing when he said I'm outta here but listen hold him accountable for being the father it's just to damn hard trying to do it all yourself, as for him I would not want somebody that could be that low as to leave at a time you needed him the most just sounds like a jerk to me good luck Hun
Frank Crummell: Yes and then your undies come back worn and stretched out.I like to do laundry in some ways, if my hubby tried they would look worse after than before and I beg to differ a little, there is a science to doing good laundry.Damn JayJay, don't none of us women have a shot at Eddie, now! Still glad that you are back!...Show more
Garrett Detone: Separation is living apart, not the sleeping arr! angement. I suggest you do that and get divorced.
Lue Podewils: M! arry me, lol? Seriously, my husband doesn't like to do anything except the neighbor lady! I'm divorcing the bum.
Dalia Causby: I HATE doing laundry! Especially my husband's, because he changes clothes three or four times a day (military uniforms and civilian clothes). But I do it anyway because I hate it when he does the laundry even more! He doesn't separate the laundry, and doesn't follow the care instructions...I'd just rather do it myself and know that it got done correctly.
Darrel Stele: She is an older woman set in her ways...what do you think you can say to change her way of thinking? Enjoy your visit...NOW that you can be IN her home....
Antonette Shappy: Sleeping in separate rooms is rather quite common for many couples you have snoring issues, leg twitching, chronic bladder issues, etc. that can disturb a partners sleep and lead to serious medical issues. Sounds to me like your a bit too sensitive really man grow some balls. Simply tell he! r that she needs to stop being so rude to you and disrespectful. Marriage is hard work your just going to throw in the towel when things get tough you was never ready for marriage in the first place. Check out counseling. If your both not willing to work on your marital issues though time to end it....Show more
Hobert Dula: My husband doesn't even know how to start the laundry. I would love to have someone offer to do it. Maybe she just likes to take care of you and fold you underwear. lol
An Cardine: Maybe because she is checking your clothes for lipstick marks and when you offer to do it yourself she thinks you have something to hide, see you wouldn't have all this trouble if you didn't have efs :)
Arnoldo Budzynski: He knows the baby is his. He says he loves his little girl yet very rarely sees her. He keeps saying he knows he's hurting us but can't turn back now and thinks it's for the best!
Norine Lomonte: its not you, or the baby, its him. h! e got scared and he is not man enough to face the reality of being a fa! mily man.. i know you are going through so much pain right now. he is probably trying to figure out what he wants but its not fair to you or the child. in the meantime, take the steps necesary to take care of yourself and your baby. as hard as it may seem, dont focus on him. i dont know if he will come around on time, and if he does, it just might be too late. i really wish you the best....Show more
Jefferson Sarson: Let her do it then. Not many people actually like to do laundry and my wife is no exception
Elbert Donatelli: Its often hard for a parent to get use to the fact that LOVE is blind and we like who we like. My feeling is meet on a command ground like a restaurant or the mall, not at her house or your house. This will help you feel her out and get to know her and she wont feel compiled to speak her mind in a public place.
Janita Tetlow: One partner buys the other out of the living space.
Mercedez Trabue: don't worry about sex stage, that e! nds for most married couples soon after marriage. as for arguing in front of kids, I wouldn't. and there are plenty of separated couples that separate then live together, to cut costs of bills, ect
Derrick Smsith: he has the baby blues and it is a concern for men its just not for women now. and with the economy there is more reports now the cheating is other story if u can forgive that go for it if u cant get child Support and move on and co parent with him .
Darrel Stele: Ninety-three percent of couples who fight dirty will be divorced in 10 years, according to marital researchers at the University of Utah. So while arguing can be a healthy means of expressing your feelings, unreasonable yelling and non-constructive criticism won't get you anywhere. Avoid zingers, sarcasm, "I gotcha" one-liners, and attempts to one-up your partner. They can damage a relationship even more than the fight itself, and increased sarcasm has been shown as a big predictor of relation! ship demise. After you make up, bring up any concerns with your partner'! s fighting style -- like his silent treatment -- and tell him that you appreciated how he actually listened to your concerns (only if it's true). Disagreements are as unavoidable as taxes, but the way you interact during them provides an opportunity for your relationship to grow....Show more
Lolita Deschamp: I don't mind doing laundry.The only thing I really don't like to do is mop so I bought a floor steam cleaner - it's Verra Naice.
Sol Bayn: I think your husband had an issue of sharing you with the baby. Evidently as sad as it seems he isn't sure he wanted the child to begin with. Be it fear of growing up or otherwise. Possibly with time he will come around. Maybe counseling would help him. Just sorry that a happy occasion turned out to be so miserable for you.
Frank Crummell: I do laundry all the time. I don't mind it. Maybe you should offer to do hers as well as yours.
Faustino Mellerson: It's either one of two things. Either he has post partum ! depression. or he thinks the baby isn't his.
Tobie Oshea: Maybe she thinks you don't think she does a good job doing it.Another thing, if a person does not know his/her way around doing laundry, there are many ways to destroy perfectly good garment. No, my husband hates doing laundry. I'm stuck with washing and folding it.
Shemeka Laker: She isnt to pleased about her son dating outside her race.She has said some pretty smart comments but now she says he can bring me to visit.Should I try to call her to let her know how it feels?
Basil Blasingame: Refuse to visit and let her know you don't associate with prejudice people.
Mandy Mustaro: All you need to post is that you're married and "I need a way out that will protect my share of the apartment.". The rest has nothing to do with what appears to be your question (how to protect your share of the apartment).An attorney versed in divorce law for the area where you live, is a good place to start. It's abo! ut time you decided to end things, after a very long time of complainin! g about her. Hopefully you did not conceive a child, or the chapters of your online Soap Opera will no doubt continue....Show more
Salvador Prchlik: Separation under the same roof is a great way to drive the husband crazy. You will learn pretty quickly that a woman can find someone by just spreading her legs, but guys have to work harder at it. Your ego will crash and burn and she will think that men actually like and aren't just trying get in her panties. She will fall in love a dozen times and push you further and further away each time. If you had hopes of saving the marriage that was a mistake. It makes more sense to kick her butt out and have her try an make it on her own. Its through that struggle of standing on her own that she will value all you had done....Show more
Rubi Romo: No don't call her to explain something like that. It was the way she was raised. It is the way she knows...prove her wrong by not being whatever stereotypical stupid thing! s she has said. Be mature and be helpful and loving, don't let her comments bother you. If she is now open to a visit then maybe she is starting to see that you aren't just a "fling" and that he really cares for you. Some people take time to warm up to you. Maybe your man could mention it to her that it hurts your feelings, but I don't think you should just come out and say anything. You don't want to get confrontational with someone who may someday be your mother in law. They are just words after all. I say actions speak louder so be a good, decent, likeable person and she will warm up to you and then you can talk about it.:)
Cletus Crotts: He apparentlyl started speaking with her while I was in hospital.She too is going through a seperation and has a 4 year old son.
Clemmie Burkleo: the why i am always do the laundry if he likes it so much
Cody Shimko: let her come to you.
Robt Heemstra: She wants to feel like she's taking care of you. T! here's nothing wrong with that; although, maybe she just wants to check! your pockets for money and notes and whatever else is in there and to check your clothes for perfume and lipstick marks. ; P